Please take time to reassess our topic here as it is much serious than I thought… I’m browsing the net to look something to read about, then came across one subject that more often than not, we tend to take this for granted…
We might engage ourselves with sex probably more than we should or simply it is just the thing nowadays… I have read an article claiming that sex is indeed the greatest form of exercise. Well, needless to say, I’ve been there and I can say that it might be true, but not for everyone… Have you asked yourself how little is little, and how much is too much? If you’re trying to have it as much as you do and as much as you can, you might be suffering from an addiction.
The “psychiatrist’s bible” may not be officially recognize that there is a sex addiction but people with the condition say it’s all too real.
It seems like sex addiction makes headlines every time a public figure is caught in a cheating scandal.
Tiger Woods: sex addict.
Anthony Weiner: sex addict.
Charlie Sheen: sex addict.
Whether their admissions are true or simply an excuse for infidelity, it’s often unclear. But for the estimated 12 million Americans who are said to suffer from sex addiction and the psychologists who treat them, it’s a serious mental health issue.
According to Dr. Stacy Seikel, chief medical officer of RiverMend Health’s Integrated Recovery Services in Atlanta, “Sex addiction is a compulsive behavior ranging from watching pornography to engaging in sexual activity to get ‘high’ or numb from reality”.
This may sound like a safe, even enjoyable addiction, especially compared with other compulsions — such as abusing drugs, alcohol, gambling, cigarettes — that can lead to hospitalization, bankruptcy and death. But sex addiction is just as persistent and doesn’t necessarily achieve the pleasure or comfort most expect from a sexual experience. “Breaking the addiction can cause anxiety, insomnia, poor concentration, depression, irritability, mood swings, and isolation,” Seikel says. “The person is seeking a feeling or sense of satisfaction that may not be met.”
Take Erica Garza, for example. “I feel like I always knew I had a problem with sex and masturbation, even from the very beginning of my sexual exploration when I started having orgasms at age 12,” Garza, a professional writer and essayist who has struggled with sex addiction, tells Yahoo Health. “I admitted openly that I had an addiction and needed help when I was in my late 20s and met my husband.”
Garza took part in destructive behavior and acted out in relationships before her marriage. This is not unusual among sex addicts: According to Seikel, cheating; lack of intimacy; multiple, random sex partners, unsafe sex, and compulsive masturbation are common characteristics.
This opened doors for doctors, psychologists, and researchers who don’t see sex addiction as a diagnosable disorder, but rather a concept based on the fear of sex, to speak out. “People with high libido, internalized conflicts over sex, relationship conflicts over sex, LGBTQ orientations, and coping skills that use sex for stress management, are often labeled as sex addicts,” says David Ley, a clinical psychologist in Albuquerque and author of The Myth of Sex Addiction. “This is inappropriate, stigmatizing, and shaming.”
Sex addicts, like Garza, often see therapists so the behavior does not run their lives. Cognitive behavioral therapy is an effective therapeutic method, Seikel says. But according to Ley, there is no evidence that sex addiction can be cured or treated, or even needs to be. He says: “No one in the history of the world has ever died or got sick when they didn’t get to have sex.”
Garza is just one of the many who lives with sex addiction, and each person’s experience is surely unique.
Each time you find yourself having sex, try to reevaluate your attitude and perception as why you’re having sex in the first place. No rush though but a quick glance can change your relationship with your loved ones.
Always seek professional help if you can… Me, well no worries, my inhibitions are all in their right places ;-)